How Many Times Can I Say “I Love You”?
When Your Woman Wants Constant Affection, is that True Romance or Relationship Overkill?
There are some couples that fight about their finances, about something one of their kids did, or about any of the general pressures that come with running a household.
And then there are those couples that fight about passion—or lack thereof.
Everything about the relationship is GREAT, but one person just needs MORE of an already good thing. And, as is the case with anything involving feelings, it’s usually the woman who’s trying to get her man to show a little more lovin’.
But maybe the real question they should be asking themselves is: “What are we fighting for?”
For Your Consideration…
I recently had a heart-to-heart with a couple that seems to be doing everything right: Beautiful home (albeit in the suburbs), a successful family-fun business, awesome kids, and a great sex life (I’d definitely take one of those four).
They brought up a fight they had had a few weeks ago (presumably to get an unbiased and UNCUT opinion).
Turns out, on this particular morning, they were enjoying some early snuggling and smooching in bed, before getting ready to start their day. By the time she had come down the stairs and began to head out the door, her husband was in the kitchen, preparing his breakfast.
She grabbed her lunch and her keys and made her way to the garage. But before stepping out, she blew a kiss to her beloved.
His reaction? He had no reaction. He half-mumbled a “good-bye” while staying focused on his PB&J sandwich.
She slammed the door and walked to her car in a huff, leaving him standing there holding a jar of peanut butter in his hands, with a blank, dumbfounded expression that only a guy can pull off—a look that says, “I know I fucked up, but I’m not sure why.”
Side Note: Dear God, thank you for keeping me single!
The Fear of Becoming One of ‘Those’ Couples
As it was explained to me by the twosome in question, it seems she has this phobia of becoming an “old couple” (translation: stale, monotonous and spark-free). So anytime there’s a missed opportunity to show some affection, she starts to panic.
Maybe she’s right to be concerned. After all, the streets of MarriageVille are littered with stories of couples who’ve lost their spark and are going about their daily routines with the same excitement as watching a pot boil.
On one hand, you can say she deserves praise for always putting her most sexual foot forward. OR, you might argue that her need for grand gestures of amour has more to do with her own insecurities in the relationship.
Two sides of a very complex coin.
Romance, 24/7: Wishful Thinking?
Sadly, married life can’t always be about rose petals and champagne. And once the kids are older, and there’s more “Couple Time” to be had, I can only assume that they have to work that much harder to reclaim the same romantic highs from when they first met.
But does that justify a woman’s need to be swept off her feet every five seconds?
Whether you’re looking for a soul mate, or a 30-min quickie at the closest motel, the truth is that, often times, our fantasy is far from the reality.
But I’ve always maintained that if everything else is still going strong, a perceived dip in your love life is rarely cause for concern. After all, even the biggest flames are just a ‘spark’ away.
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